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Oct 14, 2005 12:19:55 GMT
Post by benjisbabyboo on Oct 14, 2005 12:19:55 GMT
i have a funeral to go to today. i'm gonna cry. and i never cry. b/c i have no soul. has n e 1 hear been to a funeral that they knew the person, but didn't really know him, know him? i'm unsure on what to do. the showing is today, and the burial is tomorrow. help?
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Oct 14, 2005 18:47:26 GMT
Post by Kay on Oct 14, 2005 18:47:26 GMT
Shnoot. I went to a Open Casket and i didn't even know the girl, but i cried. It was probably because she died while pregnant and they had a baby blanket over her stomach. (She died in a car accident.)And her fiancee kept breaking down crying on her casket, so that helped preasure my tears out.
But that's as close as i came to a funeral. Never actually been to one.
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Oct 14, 2005 22:44:49 GMT
Post by americanpsycho on Oct 14, 2005 22:44:49 GMT
Dude, I had to do that twice. Once for my grandfather and once for my grandmother. It's terrible, but I didn't cry for either, which led to people glaring at me and calling me heartless.. People suck.
..My point is. If the tears don't come naturally, don't force them out. Everyone deals with pain differently and if you don't know the person that well, it's not like you'll miss them all that much.. or maybe you will. I don't know. Just don't force yourself to cry.
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Oct 15, 2005 15:18:34 GMT
Post by Walking Contradiction on Oct 15, 2005 15:18:34 GMT
When my aunt died...I didn't cry....I was just kind of...shocked.....but then when I went to her viewing...I was fine till like the last fifteen minutes....all I remember is everyone was talking about how this was your last chance to say good bye and I just looked at my mom and she knew...She just put her arms out and right then I just like fell into her and started crying....and I cried for the rest of the night...
So yeah...everyone deals with the pain differently...
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Oct 15, 2005 15:31:39 GMT
Post by Jodynne on Oct 15, 2005 15:31:39 GMT
^ yeah. ive been to one funeral...but dealt with 2 family deaths. and i didn't cry. its just my way of dealing with it...when i found out i just fixed my eyes on a spot..i dont even remember blinking...but i don't cry much.
and thats ironic, seeing as i've read afi, mcr, even bloody eminem fics and cried at the end. but whatever, that's off topic. anywayy
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Oct 15, 2005 23:06:03 GMT
Post by Jessie on Oct 15, 2005 23:06:03 GMT
^Hah, Same with me...Well, Except for the Eminem ones...
Anywho, Um. Ive been to quite a few funerals, But i didnt really know the people who died. And i just remember everyone around me crying, But, I didnt see the point. It wasnt like my tears we're going to bring them back to life.
My cold-heartedness just steams back from my dad. He doesnt show any emotion apart from anger. And ive never once seen him cry. But thats cause hes heartless and never cried when his mother died when he was 11.
People have their own individual ways of dealing with death. Mines well...I dont know, Cause ive never had anybody really close to me die.
So yeah, Im not much of a help...but oh well.
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Oct 16, 2005 2:01:06 GMT
Post by slashie on Oct 16, 2005 2:01:06 GMT
Dooode... I was just at a funeral yesterday.
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Oct 17, 2005 3:41:37 GMT
Post by DCOTN on Oct 17, 2005 3:41:37 GMT
I'm going to grow up to be like Harold.. back before he knew Maude. Then I'll write thesis papers on my experiences.
It's always easier if you never knew the person, cause then you can't relate to them. I think that's why we can hear about all these deaths in Iraq and all overseas, and not be phased- because we don't KNOW them. but because of all the coverage all teh poor american soldier people have been getting, all the sob stories about puppy love couples torn apart by war and shit... that, the media sells you an image of that girl in Wake Me Up When September Ends as the victim of war- k first, what bullshit. But... my point, that's why 9/11 effected so many people, because it's like.. Gee, they were Americans/wtv Western civilization, that means they're just like me and it's like coulda been my dad who died instead you know? So... I dunno where I'm going with this. But it's my theory.
They're like.. brainwashing you into feeling bad. And that makes the other side (overseas countries) look like the bad guys, right? Cause if you can't relate to them, you must fear them.. cause people are always afraid of what they dont know. anyway, uhm.. This has nothing to do with funerals. So.. I'm out.
Sorry for your loss, though. all of you.
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Oct 17, 2005 3:43:25 GMT
Post by DCOTN on Oct 17, 2005 3:43:25 GMT
and thats ironic, seeing as i've read afi fics and cried at the end. OH SHIT. Inconceivable, right? That one eats your soul up.
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Dec 3, 2005 6:03:34 GMT
Post by lipservice on Dec 3, 2005 6:03:34 GMT
I've been to a lot of funerals.. Two of my uncles, my grandfather, my great grandfather, my great grandmother, my god mother..and ten all the people I dint know.. My uncle was the worst, because at his funeral I started laughing out really loud.. just suddenly.. and i feel really bad about it... :/ And at my Godmother's funeral my mom sat crying the whole time.. they where best friends.. she was in France when she died.. And she had taken a drug overdose.. :/ It's so fucked up how many people dies.. Yeah, that sound weird, I know..
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